I realised that this can an issue for me but I have to say letting my hands do the talking in a conversation definitely helps this issue.
Here are three easy tips to help you do this……. and no you don’t need to be able to draw!
1. The first thing is to be clear on why you are in the conversation! This could take a bit of honesty here! Some times when we dig down it’s really all about me….well it can be for me! Realise that it’s good to focus on the person you are with to make them feel heard particularly if they have asked to meet with you!
2. Have a note book or iPad / Tablet with you that you can draw on with you. I find that if I have it open in front of me in a cafe or sitting on my lap I begin to doodle words and connectors and very soon we are both looking at it and interacting. What this tends to do is take ‘verbal volley’ kind of conversations and turn them into the kind that goes deep pretty quickly. I find I come away from this type of conversation feeling energised and excited! LOVE that!
3. Give them a pencil/stylus and have them add to what you are drawing/writing….this gives them real ownership in the conversation.
So here is the neat thing you can do if you are using a tablet….you can email the visual thinking conversation to them so they have a copy….and if you are hotwired in a cafe you can do it right there!
So go and have GREAT CONVERSATIONS!!!!!
Leaning styles are based on the senses. This is commonly called the VAK model. (Visual/Auditory/Kineasthetic) The study conducted by the Special Diagnostic Studies found this result (Millar 2001)
Which learning modality do you fit into? Click the following link for the list of Modalities to find out how you learn and communicate best. I am definitely a visual with a touch of the other two…I think we all have a touch of the other two but there is one we use to do our best learning. This includes all discussions and problem solving situations.
If you are managing people….take a good look at the percentages. It maybe you need to change the way you talk to your team!